Lessons from a 'sugar daddy' dating website

Dating scammer Anna Sevruk from Kremenchug (Ukraine). Romance scams occur when a criminal adopts a fake online identity to gain a victim’s affection and trust. The scammer then uses the illusion of a romantic or close relationship to manipulate.

That widowed Ukrainian engineer you just met on your favorite dating website? She’s probably a scammer.

Scam dating profiles are more likely to say they are Catholic; from Nigeria, the Ukraine or the Philippines; widowed and have a doctoral degree—among other characteristics, according to new data compiled by the dating website SeekingArrangement.com. Romance scammers tug at the heartstrings or stroke the ego to get dating site users to send them money.

SeekingArrangement caters to a very specific type of relationship, but the lessons here should apply to other dating sites and even to other aspects of digital life, Leroy Velasquez, a SeekingArrangement spokesman, tells Popular Science. “Because of the fact that we do cater to wealthy demographic, we do get an influx of scammers,” he says. But scammers act the same everywhere. “Your random spam email? It’s a really crappy version of what a man or woman would get on a dating profile,” he says.

SeekingArrangement got its latest stats from screening new profiles over 10 months. The profiles first go through automated screening software, which flags both traits in the profile, such as certain ethnicities, and things that aren’t visible in the profile, such as certain IP addresses and even certain passwords that scammers seem to like more than other people. Then a person on staff looks through the flagged profiles and decides whom to ban, Velasquez says.

SeekingArrangement has banned 60,000 profiles in the last 10 months, or about 220 a day. Here’s what they’ve found are the ingredients in the typical scam profile.

Lovin’ God
Scammers are mostly Catholic, or at least they say they are. Eighty-two percent of banned SeekingArrangement profiles say they’re Catholic and religion was the most common trait among fraudulent accounts. Scammer talk a lot about spirituality in the messages they send, too. Velasquez thinks this helps them seem more moral and trustworthy.

Password preferences
Or maybe they really do identify as religious? Scammers are more likely than honest profiles to have passwords like “godisgood” or “lovinggod.”

When your arrangement isn’t what it seems

Look out for ladies
Seventy-one percent of scam profiles say they’re female. (This may be specific to SeekingArrangement, where most of the wealthy “sugar daddy” users are straight men. The U.S. Federal Bureau of Investigation says the most common romance scam target is a woman over 40.)

Black widows
Sixty-three percent of scam profiles say they’re widowers. “These men and women tug on your heartstrings,” Velasquez says.

Doctoral delusion
Thirty-seven percent of scam profiles say they have a graduate degree and 54 percent say they have doctorates.

SeekingArrangement has never found a fraudulent profile in which the person said he or she had a high school diploma and no bachelor’s degree, Velasquez says.

Certain races
Although American Indians make up less than 2 percent of the U.S. population, 36 percent of scam profiles say they’re Native. Other popular races are mixed (19 percent) and other (17 percent). “They try to be a different race, something other than the usual, because it sounds more exotic,” Velasquez says.

As a member of a race that’s also exoticized… eww.

Certain places
Just like spam in your email inbox, scam profiles most commonly come from Nigeria (28 percent). Other common countries of origin are the Ukraine (23 percent) and the Philippines (21 percent). Although these countries are well known for scams, scammers nevertheless will be honest in their profile about where they’re located because automated screening software looks for discrepancies between stated locations and where people actually sign onto the site.

Shifty jobs
Twenty-six percent of scammers say they’re engineers, 25 percent say they’re royalty and 23 percent say they’re self-employed. Saying they’re self-employed makes them more difficult to fact-check by searching a corporate website, Velasquez says. And royalty have money they can send you, if you only give them your bank account information, while engineers may seem smart and thus trustworthy, Velasquez says.

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Online dating and romance have become common nowadays. While there are people that have found love through online dating (you probably know some), its rapid increase in popularity over recent years has seen a dramatic rise in online romance scams.

Finding love online can be challenging. You will never know when you will meet the right one or if you are meeting someone who will scam you out of your pockets.

Not long ago, it was embarrassing to find love online. Some people thought it was a clear sign of desperation. Some thought that dating websites were scams and full of people that were up to no good. But due to the ever-changing world, it can be challenging to find a partner.

Fortunately, due to innovations, more and more people are checking the internet for almost everything including love.

How Romance Scams Work

More and more scammers are taking advantage of individuals who are looking for a partner with whom they can get try to grow a bond with, leading to a misconception that a relationship is forming. Here are typical steps romance scammers take to lure in a victim:

Quick Takeaways about Dating Scams

Just in 2019 alone, over $201,000,000 has been conned out of victims through dating scams. This can be their life savings or retirement funds . [1]

Scammers often join dating websites, social media, and other dating apps, and pretend to be someone who is interested in their prospective victim. They act on emotional triggers to get these victims to provide personal details, gifts, and even money.

Dating scams often happen through dating websites, though these scammers can sometimes use other means of communication such as email or social media sites. They usually create profiles that are fake so they can lure their victims in. They often use fictional names or they sometimes obtain information from other people, including professionals, aid workers, or military personnel.

Once you have been lured in, they will start expressing their strong emotions for their victims and will request for you to start moving the relationship away from the dating website. They can either ask for their victims to do instant messaging, email, or phone. A majority of the scammers are claiming to be from Australia or the United States, but there are others who are claiming to be from other western countries.

Once the scammer has gained your trust, they will directly or subtly ask for gifts, credit or banking card details, or money, which can lead to identity theft issues for you. They may even ask for photos or videos of an intimate nature of yourself to use as blackmail. They will also pretend that they need money for emergency purposes or they are having a hard time dealing with their finances.

The number of romance scam cases is increasing rapidly with 21,000 cases in 2018 to 25,000 cases in 2019. In 2015, only 8,500 scams were filed. The cases have more than doubled in the past 5 years, according to the Federal Trade Commission [2].

People are losing a lot of money through online romance and dating scams. Estimates indicate that in the US alone, of all internet crimes, online romance scams accounted for up to $143 million in financial losses. And because many victims are usually too embarrassed to report being duped and conned of large sums of money, these estimates may be grossly under-reported.

It usually is very difficult to recover any monies sent to online romance scammers, but by knowing what to look out for and the tactics these fraudsters employ, you can avoid falling victim. Now, in this post, we are going to discuss some of the most common tactics used by online dating scammers and how to spot and avoid them.

What To Search Out For In Romance Scams and How To Avoid Them

Almost all online dating scams follow the same pattern. They all begin with some hook. Often, the scammer (the would-be suitor) will make contact and use something in common or a common interest, for instance, religion or profession, to spark a romantic relationship. The relationship usually ramps up very quickly afterwards.

Such a group of women easily fall victim because they believe they do not have a good chance of finding love. Perhaps another reason these women easily become victims is that many are less tech-savvy but at the same quite affluent.

Once the victim is sufficiently groomed, they are tested. Initial tests are simple. They can, for instance, involve the victim to send money, say, to help the would-be suitor fix their car. When things get a little bit more serious, the scammer may ask the victim to send them things that could later be used against the victim. This can be some compromising videos or photo leading to potential identity theft. The scammer will later use these to threaten the victim, especially when the victim is in some long-term relationship or marriage and wants to hide the relationship. Sometimes, message histories can serve this purpose.

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As the online relationship gets deeper, the victim is eventually asked to send money in large sums. Some are even asked to carry out illegal activities, and they may go ahead and do them willingly either because they are in love or because they’re being threatened.

Surprisingly, in some cases, even when the victim realizes they are being conned, the scam continues because the victim is too embarrassed to tell family and friends or report to law enforcement agencies. There are also cases where the victim knows full well that they’re being scammed, but they are in love with the scammer. So they continue to send money. This shows the manipulative powers online dating scammers can have and the vulnerability of some of the victims they target.

So, how do you avoid being scammed? The red flags to search out for

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Some people assume that only the really “stupid” people can fall for online dating scams. However, this is far from the truth. These days, online fraudsters are very clever; by the time you know you are being scammed, you’d have lost a significant amount of money.

In case you are contemplating trying online dating, here are some warning signs that a prospective partner isn’t upfront:

1. “Trusted” profiles

Usually, online dating involves individuals creating profiles (which are often fake) on a dating website or some social media sites. This is called catfishing. Some of the most common guises include medical professionals, aid workers, and military personnel because victims are more likely to trust individuals in these professions. In most cases, romance scammers will create several profiles on different sites using stolen images.

Fortunately, today, there are various online tools that can help you in case you are suspicious. You can, for instance, you can use a very useful service called BeenVerified. BeenVerified run total search about almost anyone on the net and prove if they are real or not with a whole heap of real information. You can visit the website here or read more about BeenVerified further down this article.

Another common indicator that someone isn’t who they’re claiming to be is poor English. This is especially the case if they are purporting to be university educated or from some Western country. If you have doubts, consider testing on knowledge of the area the person is claiming to come from.

Note also that many scammers work in groups but pose as a single person. So changes in such things like grammar, use of emoticons, and tone can also be a red flag that you are potentially talking to a scammer.

2. They hook you with some common interests

Scammers know how to start a conversation with you and spark a friendship. From your religion, hobbies, a line of work, etc., they will carefully pick information from your profile and use it to start a conversation with you. It does not take long before unsuspecting victims start divulging more information which the scammer uses to further the friendship or romantic relationship. In fact, some scammers will even adjust their profiles, so they are the perfect person you have been looking for.

Online dating and romance scam has become such a lucrative business that some people now write scripts for scammers for money. A UK woman was recently jailed for writing such scamming scripts. Some scammers don’t bother getting original content, so they lift such things as romantic poetry and verses from the Internet. Fortunately, you can easily check such content online to find out whether or not they are used elsewhere.

3. They become overly emotional very quickly

Scamming is often a full-time job for most of these fraudsters. And because they are usually trying to scam multiple people at a time, they are always rushing things. They don’t waste time. They will, therefore, ramp up the relationship quickly so that they can get to where they are now actually able to profit. Not so long ago, a British man had only been in an online relationship for five weeks before he began sending money to his “partner”. Before he knew it, he had sent around $290,000.

It is very common for scammers to shower their victims with affection and love. They will message and even call constantly. This is called love bombing. It is such a serious behavior that victims sometimes feel like they had been brainwashed.

In most cases, especially when using some dating website, the perpetrator often asks the victim to move to some “more secure” and private chat forum. It is advisable to keep your conversation on the dating website because most of them look out for suspect activity.

4. Asking for money

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This often starts very innocently. As noted earlier, romance scammers will start asking for small amounts of money to fix their car, buy an elderly relative some food, etc. It then quickly ramps up. A common way of asking for money involves the perpetrator asking to visit the victim. They will then say they need some money for the flight and other expenses.

In some cases, when the victim gets comfortable, the romance scammer can even ask for a large sum of money to start a business (most of the time asked to be sent via Western Union). Sometimes, it is medical costs or any other excuse. And the urgency of such demands often ramps up and may even start becoming threatening. Another common request for money involves sending money for some fees or charges in the pretense that a victim will be compensated with, say, an additional (usually huge) sum of money. Recently, one American woman was lured into sending $260,000 this way.

There is some good news though. Some companies such as Western Union are these days looking out for such cases because they are being held accountable by regulatory bodies for helping scammers. They are, therefore, becoming very strict on the money transfers they allow. Even so, it is always advisable not to send money or your banking details to an individual that you don’t completely trust.

5. Asking for suspicious activities

There are so many suspicious and potentially illegal activities that romance scammers can ask victims to do. For instance, they may ask them to pass some goods or money across countries. One British woman named Sharon Armstrong learned she had been scammed the hard way. The lady had agreed to pass a “contract” from Argentina to the UK on behalf of her suitor. She ended up getting a two-year jail term in Argentina for trying to smuggle cocaine.

If an individual is asking you to carry out any such suspicious activities, chances are they are fraudsters, and they will get you into trouble if you are not careful. Never send or receive any goods or money on behalf of people you do not know or don’t trust.

6. Introducing you to relatives, business partners, etc.

As pointed out earlier, some scammers work in some highly organized groups. Sometimes, victims may be contacted by different people posing as the same person. More elaborate fraudsters may introduce victims to other characters posing as business partners, travel agents, lawyers, bank managers, or just friends. And this usually happens too early into the relationship. In case it happens to you, be aware; you may be dealing with a con.

7. Making broken promises

These romance scammers are always good at making promises and having excuses for not doing what they promised. They can be so elaborate that they seem believable. And then the excuses become the gateway to ask for more money.

One of the most common scenarios involves the scammer promising to visit the victim. The victim is so excited and perhaps even tells family and friends about the visit by their girlfriend or boyfriend. The scammer doesn’t turn up and gives some excuse, for instance, not having enough money for passport or ticket. With hopes for a real-life meeting, the desperate victim keeps sending more money even when the excuses are getting more and more farfetched.

As I sum up, it is important to note that while this list is not exhaustive, these are some of the most common tactics employed by online dating scammers to defraud unsuspecting victims. If you are contemplating finding a friend or a romantic partner online, look out for the warning signs discussed above to avoid falling victim.

If you are suspecting some fraudulent activities or in case you have been conned, consider reporting the romance scammers first to the platform or social media sites on which you met them and to law enforcement agencies. It is often advisable to report these online scams to law enforcement agencies especially when you have performed any tasks a scammer asked you to or when you have handed over monies.

Could You Be A Victim Of A Romance Scam?

Recently I wrote an article featured on MSNBC, Mashable, Techcrunch and About.com on ways to background search who you are actually speaking to on the internet (Read Article Here). The common questions that spring to mind are:

  • Are they using fake information?
  • Am I really speaking to a real person from the USA?

To help the users of this site we have partnered with BeenVerified so you can search exactly that. This searching service may help reveal almost everything about this romance scammer and if they are a real person!

Helpful Information Available on BeenVerified:

  • Criminal Records (Please search this!)
  • Photos (Helps search if same photos are used for multiple profiles with different names)
  • Email Addresses
  • Phone Numbers
  • Social Profiles (IMPORTANT – Do they have a real social profile or multiple?)
  • Home Addresses
  • Relatives & Associates
  • Sex Offenders Register (Be safe who you are meeting!)
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If you have the slightest doubt about who you are speaking to… Please use this service!

FAQ about Romance Scams

We will now cover the most frequently asked questions that we receive on a daily basis.

1. What are the common online platforms where scams take place?

Unfortunately, scams can happen on ANY online platform that has instant messaging (IM) functionality. Most people find a “partner” via online dating sites, and then after chatting on that sites may switch over to others. To help guide you, we cover ins- and outs of dating scams on the the top platforms in the following articles:

2. Which common countries do romance scammers operate from?

Romance scammers, while they could be physically from anywhere, tend to be from lower income countries. We cover the tactics and motivation of the most common countries’ scammers in the articles below:

3. What are common tactics used by scammers?

The most common online dating scam format is when the scammer will ask for money (either in the form of actual funds, products, services, etc.). Remember that scammers will go to any lengths to manipulate you. For example, they may impersonate a military soldier to even oil rig workers in order to gain your sympathy. Be aware, perform a background search, and be diligent!

4. What can I do protect myself in 2021?

Whenever you find someone online that you are interested in, you should perform a quick background search. Our partners over at BeenVerified provide the quickest method of performing a check of the person you are speaking to online using their name, email, or phone number. We, at RomanceScams.org, highly recommend doing so!

About RomanceScams.org & What We Do

Our website works by checking every part of a dating website available online. There are more than 2,500 different dating websites today in the U.S. alone. But every single year, there are 1,000 new online dating services opening and based on the estimate, there are 8,000 competitors all over the globe. You probably won’t be able to check every website and determine which ones are scams and which ones are legitimate. That is why RomanceScams.org is here to help you with it.

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Typically, we at RomanceScams.org check the site by its domain name. We also review the contact information of the dating website, wherein most fake dating websites only have a form where you can fill out and send to the site administrator. This kind of site has a strong indication that it is a scam since most legitimate dating sites have a contact page where their clients can contact them.

We have built services and work based on the clients’ reviews and as well as cooperation that is successful with their respective partners. We are reviewing online dating websites to help both men and women to avoid being scammed. We always make sure to keep you safe and satisfied with every dating websites that we review. We have a list of the legitimate sites where you can register and find a companion or a long-term partner.

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Sources

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[1] – Consumers lose $201 million in scams: https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/press-releases/2020/02/new-ftc-data-show-consumers-reported-losing-more-200-million[2] – Cases have doubled since 2015: https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/blogs/data-spotlight/2019/02/romance-scams-rank-number-one-total-reported-losses#end1
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